Buried deep inside and hidden from view may be conflicted feelings about an abortion you had in your past. Perhaps you’ve also concealed it from those around you, preferring to keep this quiet pain you may feel a secret. Concealing emotions such as grief or sadness can lead to moments…
There is a quote from Nelson Mandela that says, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” There can be a lot of fears and personal…
After a woman has had one or multiple abortions, it can be common for her to feel like she is no longer “worthy.” This can adversely affect the way she makes decisions about her life and, thus, put her on a destructive path. Instead of feeling worthy of a bright…
When things start to crumble in your life, do you consider yourself to be a “strong woman”? Able to handle even the most difficult circumstances and claw your way back to the top? Many strong women may say “yes” to that question until something really life changing and unimaginable comes…
Recently, Angie invited her friend Bonnie to meet for coffee. Ever since the semester began, Angie had been noticing that Bonnie seemed distant and not her normal, cheerful self. Angie said, “Bonnie, is something wrong? You seem so sad, lately!” Bonnie replied, “No, I don’t know what you’re talking about.…
For some women, months or even years can go by without them ever acknowledging their feelings about a past abortion. This can be due to the difficulty of not wanting to share difficult memories from the past or believing if they do talk about it, the “emotional wound” will never…
Feeling Alone Have you been struggling all alone to cope with the emotional pain caused by a previous abortion? Oftentimes, women feel all alone following an abortion experience because it can be difficult to talk about the experience with others. You may feel a sense of fear that you will…
Some women may struggle with complex feelings towards friends or family members that may have encouraged their abortion decision. While these emotions are normal, sometimes, the person the post-abortive woman feels angriest with is herself. Know that your abortion decision does not have to be what weighs heaviest upon your…
Struggling with Anger Some women may feel angry after their abortion. A post-abortive heart can be weighed down by many emotions, and your anger may be directed at loved ones who did not offer you an alternative to abortion. Or, you may feel resentful towards a friend or family member…
Telling Loved Ones Telling your loved ones about a past abortion can be a very personal discussion. For some women, sharing their untold abortion story can be an important step towards healing, allowing for their grief and sadness to be heard. An abortion can impact women in a variety of…