When we think of the word “grief,” we might also think of words such as sadness, mourning, or unhappiness. Part of our human nature is to grieve when we lose something or someone that is important or meaningful. So why do so many avoid grieving? Some feel that grief is a sign of weakness. Some feel that grieving opens up too many unwanted emotions. Others don’t feel free to grieve, whether because of secrecy surrounding their abortions or because it was the best decision at the time. However, the grieving process is important.
An abortion is a complicated loss involving many feelings and emotions, both before and after the event. If the emotions that accompany grief are repressed, they can resurface later during times of stress. It is important to realize and explore the feelings and emotions that come with grieving. Experts describe three stages of processing abortion-related grief:
1. Initial phase—Shock, relief, numbness
2. Grief phase—Anxiety, hopelessness, anger, guilt
3. Completion—Sadness, acceptance, hope
Of course, grieving is an intensely personal process. Not every woman experiences all of these feelings.
Grieving is not a sign of weakness or loss of power, but instead a sign of strength and courage. It’s important for our physical, emotional, and mental health. Grieving can take time, but when allowed to proceed, it brings a sense of healing and proves beneficial for soul. If you may be ready to take the next step in your grieving process, please call Restore. We care and want to help.