Signposts: Feeling Compelled to Tell or to Conceal an Abortion


If you have been involved in an abortion, you may have found it is something that has not disappeared from your life. Although it is in your past, and you made the best decision you could at the time, its impact may stay with you.

One response you may have is a desire to conceal that the abortion happened at all – at least from certain people in your life. Are there some individuals you feel compelled to hide this from? Are you doing everything in your power to keep them from knowing, and do you fear they might someday discover it? Perhaps you have created scenarios – probably negative ones you want to avoid – of what might happen if they learned about it.

Another response may be feeling compelled to tell many people about your abortion experience. Especially if you find yourself talking about it with casual acquaintances, or even with people you do not know at all, is it possible you are sharing it widely in an attempt to receive acceptance or forgiveness from others? Maybe you’re hoping that to open it up with many others will make it less significant; perhaps it can help you “normalize” your experience and the way you are feeling about it.

Either of these two extremes could be an indication you are still in a struggle to come to terms with it yourself. Might it be helpful for you to talk with someone “safe” about this? We are here, ready to listen with care, compassion and confidentiality. May we help you?

Restore helps those for whom the lingering effects of abortion continue to cause pain. Restore provides free confidential post-abortion care and support services to all individuals after abortion experiences. Restore After Abortion serves Du Page County, Illinois and surrounding communities. Please call today for a free, confidential consultation.